For a long time, I felt out of sync. I was always trying to fit into the mold of what I thought I should be doing. Even if that meant burning myself out and trying to fit too much on my plate at one time. I would do what I thought I should be doing instead of listening to my soul or going with my own flow. It wasn’t until I got so sick and burned out that I realized it was time for a break and to take a step back and take a look at my life. What did I want to do for the rest of my life? These past few months I’ve been figuring out what it is that I want to do with my life and how I can implement my passions and self-care into my life without getting burned out or giving myself a massive to-do list that will ultimately get scrapped if I’m being unrealistic in what I can accomplish. So, I’ve been focusing on balancing my masculine and feminine. We are all a little masculine and feminine regardless of gender. Masculine is the more yang energy. Feminine is the yin energy.
In the past, I would get too in the masculine side of working and I would try to fill my plate up and either get burned out and exhausted or just annoyed with what I was doing because I wasn’t listening to my intuition or my feminine side. Sometimes especially in today’s world, we think being busy is the most important thing. Even if we are being busy but not really accomplishing our goals. So, one step I had to take was figuring out my goals and realistic ways to accomplish them. And scrap the just being busy manifesto but not really accomplishing anything for being productive. And I learned that spending the whole day working but not doing anything for myself can lead to burn out quickly. So I cut out a lot of things from my life. I even took a break from social media. I took a break from blogging. But, it renewed my passions and helped me to figure out what my passions actually are. And discover who I really am in the process.
I’ve also been on the too yin or feminine side. Spending hours in meditation and focusing on a vision board instead of doing the actual work. I love my feminine side but I’ve learned you also have to do the work. Self-care is so important but life is also about balance. Just praying, meditating, and visualizing your goals is not going to get it done. You actually have to come up with goals and a plan and make time daily to put those actions into place.
So, these past few months I’ve been working on balance.
One of the first steps I took was just letting my feminine side rule. Just being and not doing anything at all. Listening to my intuition and my soul and taking some time to do what I wanted to do instead of what I thought I should be doing. I spent a few months doing this. And getting back to my self-care routine and spiritual practices. If you don’t or can’t take a few months then I suggest taking a soul day. I like to take mine on Sunday’s. One day to rest, play, reflect and just focus on what is calling you. Or during your menstrual cycle phase take the first 2-3 days to do this.
The second step was to create goals based on my intuition and my soul callings. I came up with a 5-6 year plan based on this.
The third step was to write this plan down and create daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly goals. I broke my plan into 6-7 years. Not all of it is completely written down but I keep a notepad so if any ideas come up I can quickly jot them down. And then put my ideas in the appropriate category and time frame.
The fourth step was to create my feminine goals (self-care routine, spiritual practices, when I will have my soul days) and my more masculine goals (when I will get s**t done, break my goals up into days, weeks, months, and even years, what can I accomplish in the appropriate timeframe, social media etc…)
My fifth step was to not bite off more then I could chew. And decide what will actually be productive and what is just busy work. When I would overload myself it would quickly lead to burnout and/or anxiety. So, if I can take anything off my plate then I do.
And sixth is to not to forget to play, have fun, get some rest, and practice sacred self-care. And to go by my moon cycle. This is one of the ways I can honor my feminine and masculine side. During the menstrual phase I’m naturally more tired so if I need more rest then this is when I take it. And I just honor myself instead of focusing on all the things I need to get done. For me, this is one of the best times to come up with new ideas. Then as I move on I can put more of my masculine energy into my work and exercise. Once my energy comes back and I feel more focused it’s time to get things done.
These past few months I’ve learned it’s really about honoring myself, my body, and where I currently am in my life. To realize that sometimes I just can’t get everything done and that is okay. Because after all, life is all about balance.
